A Woman’s Best Friend

Immigrating to another country means that I leave all my loved ones behind. It was a battle, and continue to be. There will always be a part of me that I left back home in the Philippines. One day, in the midst of my depression, my husband left me with his senior dog, a female black Labrador named ‘Jinx.’

I was never a dog person growing up. Once, when I was about 10 years old, my dad got us a small mini pinscher. She was the cutest thing. We named her ‘Lala’. After a week, I got bored. My sister ended up taking care of her. Back then, I didn’t understand animals. I thought zoos were great, not understanding that these animals were not in their proper habitat.

So, when my husband told me to hang out with his dog, I was surprised. This dog and I just ended up staring at each other. A little nudge here, a little slobber there. She was trying to tell me she wanted her butt massaged, probably thinking how stupid I am not to realize – after all, she has wiggled her butt into a blur. Over the years, I have fallen in love with this dog. I’ve learned that she is great company.

And so, fast forward to now, we are a family of 2 humans and 3 dogs. I have spent my days off speaking with my dogs, telling them stories and asking them questions. I usually end up spending more time with them than I do with humans. Call me the ‘crazy dog lady’ but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

These dogs have taught me how to be compassionate, sensitive, understanding and patient. (A lot of patience) They have made me laugh, cry, scream out in frustration. They have embarrassed me in public. They have made me proud, LOL, nauseated and happy. They have kept me warm on cold nights and have kicked me hard in the stomach when it’s too hot. They’re not very subtle.

 

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Olive stole all our blankets in the middle of a cold night.

Now, I can’t imagine my life without any of them. Hey, it’s messy, there’s dog hair everywhere, (It has followed me all the way to work in my lunch box), they eat disgusting stuff, they step on their own poop – it ain’t a pretty picture. However, it has also given me a purpose in life. Here is a living breathing living thing who relies on me to eat, breathe, sleep and survive. In exchange, they give me all the love and trust in the world. They have helped me cope with sadness, depression and anxiety. They have also been there through all the successes, happiness and celebrations.

I got your back, girls. Through thick and thin. Thanks for all the love.

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Life Updates / Immigration Questions

How is everyone?

Things have been hectic for me. Over the past 2 years, there have been so many milestones that I have met in my life that I could only have dreamed of. The American Dream is still alive… at least for me. From getting our own house, to buying a car (albeit a second hand 80’s car that I have always wanted ever since I was a kid), working 2 jobs (1 in a respectable and known company), being able to pay the bills and support myself – working hard has reaped so many benefits for me personally, that I can’t think of anything else except to work extra harder.

To all my friends that had the same journey as I did, how are you doing now? I hope you are having a satisfying life, even though at times it seems that it could be better. Please post below and tell me something about your life here in the US, life updates. 🙂

I can’t complain. If I did complain, the only complaint that I have would be being so far away from my family. But even in my point of view, I think it’s a very valid complaint, but something that I try not to dwell upon too much as I try to visit every year.

So, right now, it’s the 25th of June. Exactly a month and 1 day from now, on July 26, I will be having my church wedding in Tagaytay, Philippines, which I am very excited/stressed about. (cue the wedding music!) Working all the double shifts and overtimes just to pay for the wedding.. but it will be all worth it. I will be posting pictures here as it happens next month. My husband and I are very excited. We are only worried about our 2 dogs and who they are going to stay with for 3 weeks. We are still trying to find an answer for that.

I know a lot of people have left comments on my immigration posts asking for help with their own process. I hope the process went as smoothly for you as it did for us. To some people who have posted questions asking for help, there are some things that I have forgotten already. Like I have said before, I am not a professional, I am not a lawyer of the immigration process nor am I paid for anything that I post. I only post guides to help other people who are going through the same process as I am. So, if I haven’t replied to any of your questions, it may mean that I honestly don’t know the answer or have forgotten. If I did give advice that may have mislead you, I’m sorry. Like I said, I am not an expert. My guides are as thorough as I can write them, and hopefully it can help you.

Much love,

Imigranteng Filipina

I can’t complain

Things have been pretty good so far. Despite balancing 2 jobs, and the occasional squabble with the hubby (drama), I must say, I can’t complain. 

Updates:

1. We are currently in escrow. (Bye in-laws!) Can’t wait ’til we have our own space. I’ve been spending so much time researching on ways to design the house, and of course, as a woman, I have a difficult time deciding.  However, after how God has been so good to us, I know that everything will fall into place, whatever time he wants it for us. Patience, a difficult value to learn, and I’m still having difficulty.

2. Like all jobs, I would assume, we are all not satisfied, nor will we ever be. There will always be complaints.. I’m sure I do. But, people have been good to me, and I’m thankful to have a job. 2 jobs at that. Exhausting, but, again, I can’t complain.

3. Church wedding for the Philippines set on July 26, 2014. Problem is – where will I get the money? That’s something I will worry about after we secure the house.

4. With regards to the immigration process, I’m just waiting until the time wherein I file for ROC. Currently, I’m fixing the papers for my name to be changed in my Philippine passport. Still researching on that, and will be making a post when I actually get around to it. 2 jobs is like sleep, eat and go to work and the cycle goes on. It needs to be sleep, eat, do stuff and work.. Oh well.

How about you guys? Any updates? I hope everything is doing well in the US of A! 

With love,

ImigrantengFilipina

How is everyone?

I don’t really know how much people are actually reading my blog, but I’m going to ask this question anyway.

How is everyone doing? 

Things have been HELLA crazy with me. I’ve been so busy with work, trying to juggle 2 jobs. I can’t complain… I’m blessed and thankful. Just a little bit tired with no vacation in site. Aside from that, married life is great.

I kind of took a break with guides or tips for immigration, only because I’m in that 2 year in-between permanent residence and then removal of conditions. Being a permanent resident was easy enough. Honestly, once you get here, it gets easier. The hardest one was the K1 visa interview in the Philippines. Now that I think about it, damn, it felt like yesterday and felt like lightyears ago at the same time. It was only last June 2011 – a year and a half ago.

So, here’s to hoping everyone is doing great so far. 2012 is almost over, let’s make the most out of it!

Sincerely,

ImigrantengFilipina